Jealousy=Love?
Jealousy feeling may be equal to a number of feelings, but never to a feeling of love. There is nothing in common between love and jealousy. Jealousy will never be an indication of love and love will never be a reason for jealousy. There is no connection between these two feeling, though a number of people believe there is. It is time to face with this problem and take a good look on it. Once you do that you will realise yourself that there is nothing in common between those two feelings and no connection between.
Most likely, people say that jealousy is equal to love because they want to justify themselves or people they are in love with. It hurts to realise that a man or a woman you are in love with doesn't trust you and always makes up different reasons for jealousy and always makes up images about your cheating. It hurts much but it is right. The first step on your way to deal with some problem is to face and realise the problem. Once you did it – it is much easier to deal with it and to dispose it. So, look straight to the eyes of your problem (whether you are the one who is jealous or the one who is being jealoused) and you will see there the real reasons of its origin.
The base for jealousy is a thirstiness for possessing with a person, for control the person. That is the reason for jealousy, but not a love. A person who is jealous is mad about desire to settle total control over another person. And once he or she managed to do it the fear appears. This is a fear of loss of the control. As a result of the fear jealousy appears. As you can see there is no word said about love as love has nothing to do with it, love has nothing to do with a desire to control someone and love has nothing to do with fear.
Another feeling equal to mass destructive feeling is a feeling of lack of self-confidence. The one who is jealous consider her or himself to be not good enough for the one they are in love with. As a result of this belief appears confidence in the fact that there for sure will be a day when he or she will leave and find another love, the love that will be younger/stronger/smarter etc. a number of features may be mentioned in this line but the features are of no importance. What is of great importance is the lack of self-confidence that results in jealousy. As you can see there is also no single word said about love. There is no love, there only the lack of self-confidence is.
Sure, I don't want to say that if your husband or wife is jealous it means that he or she doesn't love you. There is no way for one to state it. But, what I do want to say is that you shouldn't, you can't, and you are not allowed to recognise jealousy as a declaration of love or as an indication of it. There are a number of feelings that may be considered as equal to jealousy but there is no love or something like love among these feelings.